What I understood from the Thinking, Feeling and Mindful Self was that they were very much interconnected. The Thinking Self and Feeling Self always have an exchange, as the self is “the society of the mind”, and so different situations and contexts will entail a rather “ping-pong” like interaction between the 2 selves: the Thinking Self perceives the situation, makes for it a label, then the Feeling self will induce reactions within the body; mentally, emotionally, physiologically, depending on the intensity of the situation encountered. And with the Feeling self creating reactions, in turn will the Thinking self make decisions. This is where the Mindful Self comes in; where it just simply acknowledges the situation. That then paves the way for greater positivity and makes the mind more open to different experiences; calming the Thinking and Feeling Selves and taking over for them in order to cooperate for the well-being of the person.
One story I can relate this to that happened this week was when I was late for an early morning class, and I couldn’t park immediately. I really liked the class, even if it was early morning, and I wanted to make the effort to really go for the class on time (since I was late already several times). However, blocked by terrible traffic both outside and inside Ateneo, 7:45 am in the morning, I clearly had no choice but to just make it to as much of the class as I could. So instead of rushing to park, I took my time, knowing that my escalated heart-rate in rushing will only make it impossible for me to focus and to keep up. It turns out, I didn’t miss much
So in this situation, I realized that I understand what it truly means to be in control. It’s not about bending the situation to my will, but in taking full control of what I will point myself towards. In the end, that’s when I discovered that I decided my happiness, my sense of control and what is important. I remember towards the end of Avengers: Age of Ultron, when Nick Fury was talking with Black Widow about how the team turned out. He said “I didn’t know any of this was gonna happen. You make a choice, and you make do with what you get. I got a great team”. And so that for me became my lesson this week; make choices, make do with what I have. And hopefully, make the decisions that will allow me to have what’s given to me in different situations in life.
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